I found this handy dandy handout for teachers on toddler learning styles – good for parents too…


I woke up this morning and the first thought on my mind was, “I’m going to make some coffee!” Hmmm, just imagining that aroma brings comforting thoughts. Then a thought hit me as the sunshine came sneaking through my window blinds, I wondered to myself. “Is this what God desperately wants us to say about him? Does he want us to thirst after him like I do my morning coffee?”

I got out of bed, grabbed my Bible and it opened to the story of the woman at the well with Jesus promising us living water. Hmm, I wonder if that was a hint. God is ready to give us living water just like he promised to the Samaritan woman at the well in John 4. He promises us to never thirst again if we drink his living water.

Psalm 42:1,2

“As the deer pants for streams of water,

so my soul pants for you, O God.

My soul thirsts for God, for the living God.

When can I go and meet with God?”

I guess today we might say, “Like a coffee addict lined up in the Starbucks line, so my soul longs after thee”

I wonder if God looks down and sees us longing after things like coffee first thing in the morning and think, “if only they thirsted after me, I could fill their emptiness to never thirst again.”

I see coffee shops everywhere and wonder – “what if we sought after conversation with God like we do for conversation in coffee shops?” I know we’d all have a better glimpse of who He really is, how much He loves us, and what His hopes for us are. What we take for granted!

“Come close to God, and God will come close to you.” – James 4:8

“Whoever drinks the water I give him will never thirst.” – John 4:14


When was the last time you used the word honour in an everyday conversation with a regular Joe?

Does it strike you as outmoded, a little archaic perhaps? For instance, when did you last slay a dragon from the back of your trusty white steed, lay your cloak over a puddle for a lady, bow in deference to others at court, or swear undying fealty to your king? (More on that later.) After all, that stuff was around in the Middle Ages. 

On the other hand, that stuff has been around since the Middle Ages. What student hasn’t read of King Arthur (first written about in the 1130’s) or Don Quixote (published in 1605, 1615)? Who among us hasn’t seen a Robin Hood movie (the first of which came out in the early 1920’s) or Shrek?

If you’ve visited a museum and seen a suit of armor, haven’t you marveled at how small those guys were?
 But, with all due respect, it wasn’t Geoffrey of Monmouth or Cervantes who invented honour. Nay, honour is older than, well, dirt. Noooo, it was God who created honour. Check out what David says about honour in Psalm 8:1-5 (NIV):

“O Lord, our Lord, how majestic is your name in all the earth! You have set your glory above the heavens. From the lips of children and infants you have ordained praise … When I consider your heavens, the work of your fingers, the moon and the stars, which you have set in place, what is man that you are mindful of him, the son of man that you care for him? You made him a little lower than the heavenly beings and crowned him with glory and honour.”

Can you read that and not be awestruck that the King of kings and Lord of lords, who deserves glory over all others, would esteem us, even a little? Yet He does. David’s life, in fact, is chock-full of honour-related examples and principles. Think back to what you know about David, like:

… his encounter with Goliath. God said, “Those who honour me I will honour” (1 Samuel 2:30, NIV). David honoured God, and God honoured David, even though he was the little brother, a mere boy, and overlooked at every turn.

Honour those who are overlooked.

… his friendship with Jonathan. God says, “Be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Honour one another above yourselves” (Romans 12:10, NIrV). David honoured Jonathan, certainly; but think how remarkable it was that Jonathan (the heir apparent to the throne) should honour David (who would eventually become king) more than himself.

Honour others more than yourself.

… his turbulent and tragic relationship with his son Absalom. God says, “‘Honour your father and mother’–which is the first commandment with a promise–’that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth’” (Ephesians 6:2-3, NIV). What a contrast Absalom is to Jonathan!

Honour those who are over you.

… his unself-conscious worship of God: “I will celebrate before the Lord. I will become even more undignified than this” (2 Samuel 6:21-22, NIV).

Honour God out LOUD.

So come February in Jr Kids Church, we’re going to camp here, with David, Goliath, Jonathan, Absalom, and Michal, and examine some things God says about honour and what it looks like to live in honourable ways.

Now back to dragons and puddles. You may not have slain a dragon from the back of your trusty charger, but have you cheered the underdog or said thank you to the teenager taking your order at the drive-thru? You probably haven’t spread your cloak over a puddle for a lady, but have you held the door for one? You may not have bowed in deference to others at court or sworn loyalty to a king, but have you obeyed your parents without rolling your eyes or stood in heartfelt praise to honour THE King? 

See, honour doesn’t live just in legends! Therefore, prithee don thine armour and thy cloak and henceforth seek to impart the ways of honour to thy probies thusly. Thy labour shalt not be for naught.

By Melanie Williams. © 2009 The reThink Group * www.rethinkgroup.org * All rights reserved. Used by permission

Coming in February…

Virtue: Honour—letting someone know you see how valuable they really are.

Feb 7th The Sword and the Stone

Memory Verse: Be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Honour one another above yourselves.” Romans 12:10, NIV

Bible Story: The Sword and the Stone (David and Goliath) • 1 Samuel 17:1-58

Bottom Line: Honour those who are overlooked.

Feb 14th The Brotherhood

Virtue: Honour—letting someone know you see how valuable they really are.

Memory Verse: Be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Honour one another above yourselves.” Romans 12:10, NIV

Bible Story: The Brotherhood (David and Jonathan) • 1 Samuel 18:1-4

Bottom Line: Honour others more than yourself.

Feb 21st The Rebellion

Memory Verse: Be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Honour one another above yourselves.” Romans 12:10, NIV

Bible Story: The Rebellion (David and Absalom) • 2 Samuel 15:1-16a; 16:15; 17:22; 18:6-7,15,31-33

Bottom Line: Honour those who are over you.

Check out our website for devotions to do daily with your kids to stimulate discussion and reinforce their learnings: www.RossRoadKids.com


Just read this…

Compared to the Disney Channel, your class is lame. No special effects… Focus on giving kids what they can’t get on TV: an adult who listens and who’s investing in them. And truth wrapped up in fun, relational learning.

Focus on relationship, not on being cool. Your kids will warm up when they trust that you’re authentically in their corner.

Source: Children’s Ministry Pocket Guide to Discipline from www.Group.com


God has created us each uniquely to work together as a complete body to make a difference!

You made all the delicate, inner parts of my body
and knit me together in my mother’s womb.
Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex!
Your workmanship is marvelous—how well I know it. – Psalm 139:13, 14

He has given each one of us a special gift through the generosity of Christ… From him the whole body, joined and held together by every supporting ligament, grows and builds itself up in love, as each part does its work. (Eph 4)

When you use what you have to help others, you can make a difference. Following Christ means working together in community- using the gifts he’s given to make a difference!


“…we will not compare ourselves with each other as if one of us were better and another worse. We have far more interesting things to do with our lives. Each of us is an original.” (Gal 5)


This Christmas, I’ve been pondering a few thoughts spurred on by a few of my studies in Isaiah and the writings of Spurgeon and Stanley…

“For to us a child is born, to us a son is given,… And he will be called Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace.” – Isaiah 9:6

Holidays are numerous, but there is only one Christmas. If you feel a sense of letdown, you may have drifted away from an authentic celebration of Christmas. Christmas is not just a holiday; it is a holy day—the day God came to earth and to reveal himself to us. One of His many names is Immanuel which means “God with us”. That is not the question. God is with us. The question is: “are we with God?

Today, I invite you to rest in the promises of our faithful God, knowing that His words are full of truth and power. (Do you know His truth and power?) We rest in His Word, which is comfort itself; we rest in the promise of His grace, which is a place of safety and of satisfaction. (Are you allowing Him to bring you safety and satisfaction? Or do you prefer to live in fear and with an unquenchable drivenness to seek satisfaction on your own?)

The person of Jesus is the quiet resting-place of those who love Him; and when we draw near to Him in the breaking of bread, in the hearing of the Word, the searching of the Scriptures, in prayer, or in praise, we find any form of coming within reach of Him- to be the return of peace to our lives. The God of Peace gives perfect peace to those whose hearts are fully focused on Him.

Today, whatever kind of Christmas you may have had (peaceful or not), I invite you to open your heart to His perfect peace, His safety and satisfaction- what He wanted so desperately to give you that He sent His son to do it.

To learn more, this site beautifully explains it…

Source: Book of Isaiah, writings of Charles Stanley, Charles Spurgeon


Join us for our Ross Road Kids Zone Christmas Program this Sunday at either 9am or 10:45am. Parents check your email for all the details on when and where your kids need to be. To get a seat, we recommend coming 20-30 minutes ahead before start time.

Come and join us for this year’s program…

Shepherds, Sheep and a Savior
Arrangers: Ed Kee
On a hill just outside of Bethlehem, lowly shepherds were tending their sheep at night. They didn’t get much company out there. People had been passing through for several days as the census was underway, but they hardly spoke at all as they walked by on their way to Bethlehem. Nobody really wanted to talk to the shepherds. That is, nobody except an angel! They may have been at the bottom of the social ladder in Bethlehem, but God chose shepherds to be the first ones to see the Savior! This is their story – what they heard and what they saw that marvelous night when God came to dwell with men.

“How to Make the Christmas Story Come Alive
to Your Children At Home!”
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Engage in a great family tradition you can do at home
to help your children understand the meaning of Christmas!
Bring the story close to their young hearts and minds.
Enjoy the wonder of Christmas through your children’s eyes!


Download our Family Advent Brochure with ideas you can do at home with your children! (Right click and save the Advent-Brochure to your desktop!)

(Requires a free pdf reader which your computer should already have. If not, simply download it at www.Adobe.com)


We are excited to announce that our boys club will soon be underway. Our planned start date is Wed, Nov 18th and it will occur most likely every other Wednesday nights at 6:30-8pm and run until April. We are working on the calendar!

If you’d like to sign up to be a boys club leader, email me. If your son is interested in joining. Download the registration form and drop it off this Sunday!

GNO-guys Registration Form 09-10


Following God’s lead takes great faith and complete surrender- sometimes He asks us to do the very thing we dislike or even hate- Jesus told the rich man to give away his wealth. God told Abraham to give Him Isaac – his only son. God told Jonah to share hope to his enemies in Ninevah. God told Hosea to forgive and love his unfaithful wife. But we only see the present and don’t understand the future like God does. We don’t see the big picture. We say we want world peace but are we willing to allow God’s peace to rule in our hearts?


“How To Impact Your
Neighbourhood
On October 31st

Jesus called us to be salt and light.
What a better time to be this
than on a traditionally dark night?


We are called to be salt and light in a dark world. Why not share a bit of that when your neighbours come calling on your door on October 31st?

Here are some ideas on how to make an impact in your neighbourhood on this night. Here we share with you, ideas to do if you have kids and even if you don’t!

“The grass withers and the flowers fall, but the word of our God stands forever.” – Isaiah 40:8

“The chocolate bars are eaten and the suckers licked away but the sweetness of God’s timeless wisdom will last forever.” (Adaptation).

Get started by visiting the links below!

(Requires Adobe Reader which you can download for free.)

1.Halloween Outreach Flyer-Read this first!

2. Then choose one of the following to hand out to visitors to your door! (Please note: When you go to print out your Halloween Cards- make sure you choose 8.5×11 letter size on your print properties settings! After you open the file, go up to File/Print and then find ‘page scaling’ and ‘choose paper source by PDF page size’.)

Halloween Card-for kids to colour and hand out!

Halloween Card – already in full colour

Another great idea:

For Halloween, Don’t Just Give Them Candy…


“How To Impact Your Neighbourhood On October 31st.”

Jesus called us to be salt and light.
What a better time to be this than on a traditionally dark night?

When you stop and think about it, Halloween allows us to “do evangelism in reverse.” Those who need Jesus come to us and we have the freedom to put whatever spin we want on the whole Halloween thing. Here are some ideas on how to make an impact in your neighbourhood on this night.

Hand out Adventure in Odyssey CDs or homemade cards from your younger kids with the candy you give away. The cards can start off with “I made this card for you”. These cards are like glimpses of the Gospel. We are called to be salt and light in a dark world. Why not share a bit of that when your neighbours come calling on your door? In the card emphasize what light does to darkness using a scripture or two. Your purpose is to whet their appetite to learn more – not to hit them with the full Gospel. Allow this to prompt them to ask you questions in the future. Simply plant a seed.

“The grass withers and the flowers fall, but the word of our God stands forever.” – Isaiah 40:8

“The chocolate bars are eaten and the suckers licked away but the Scripture’s impression will last forever.” (My own interpretation).

1. If you walk around your street trick or treating with your kids, strike up a conversation with your neighbours as they walk with their kids. It’s an opportunity to let the love of Christ shine. Show them that you care about them and their kids.

2. As you walk around your street from door to door trick or treating say a prayer for each family in each home. Wow, how powerful this can be! Remember what Joshua did for seven days? (Joshua 6) In a way, you are bringing walls down as you walk through your neighbourhood asking for protection and inviting His love to enter in.

3. If you live in the country and don’t have trick or treaters, invite another family over who has children and have a kids’ dress up party. You can play some games and enjoy a few goodies together. Start the night off in prayer for your city asking God to protect everyone on the streets.

4. If you live in the city and know a family who lives in the country, invite them to join you in your family festivities if it includes trick or treating. Choose some of the ideas above to do together. It’s an opportunity to fellowship together and serve together showing love to their neighbourhood.

5. Make up a big sign on your door sharing a scripture verse. Everyone can’t help but read it and you’ve just shared with them the timeless wisdom of God! You don’t even have to put the reference, which may only confuse them. I wonder what kind of questions you would prompt if you had on your door… “For everyone who asks receives; he who seeks finds; and to him who knocks, the door will be opened.” (Luke 11:10)


How do you plan to celebrate Christmas this year?

Soon it will be time to celebrate Christmas – the season of our Saviour’s birth. It’s coming fast. If this brings panic and frustration rather than hope and celebration, perhaps it’s become a season of rush, entertainment and high spending debt for you like so many. If so, than we’ve lost the point. God sent His Son, after all, by way of a humble barn.

This year, it is my prayer that we as families may be able to seek to keep the main point of Christmas for our children. If actions speak louder than words, what do we teach them about Christmas in our actions? Is it a season of hope and celebration or anxiety, despair and overspending on ourselves?

With the economic changes, some families have even chosen to not buy gifts for each other at all – but instead have chosen as a family to do something as an act of service together – serve at a soup kitchen, or make an affordable donation to the local food bank instead of gifts to each other.

Take time to pray as a family asking God to lead you – as to how you as a family can reflect and celebrate on the meaning of Christmas this year. Perhaps our traditions aren’t quite what God is calling us to do. Perhaps this year, the way we celebrate Christmas needs to start at the heart of the main message of why God sent us His Son?

How will you choose to celebrate Christmas this year?

Here is a powerful idea of what would happen if we all chose to celebrate Christmas like this… http://adventconspiracy.org/


20Sep09

i’m testing out ping.fm


Camp By Memory

17Sep09

Kids can go to summer camp for free in 2010!! Join the Camp By Memory Program! Kids in Grade 3-5 and 6-12 can memorize extra scripture to earn their way to camp! Contact Pastor Merri Ellen or Pastor Craig for more info!! Register before October!

Here’s some info on the Grade 3-5 program…


want_a_knuckle_sandwichDisruptive Child Behavior.

Every time children misbehave, it’s an opportunity to help them grow…Here’s how.

Adapted by an article written by Ken McDuff- a children’s pastor in Bakersfield, California.


You may have them… kids who disrupt you with their antics. The kids who challenge your authority and try your patience. The kids who ignore the rules without fear of consequences. Admit it: Even “good” kids can get on your nerves from time to time when their behavior is — well, childish.

Today’s child can be a handful, and parents are left scrambling for new ideas. Too often, discipline is reduced to a stern face and a set of ineffective rules and escalating consequences- only for your child to misbehave again.

While there’s no secret formula guaranteed to calm kid-chaos, approaching discipline from a different perspective can help. Don’t think of discipline as punishment for unwanted behavior. Think of it as a disciple-making strategy. Turn those trying moments into teachable moments. To do that, we must first understand the truth about children’s hearts.

Fruit Of The Heart

“No good tree bears bad fruit, nor does a bad tree bear good fruit”(Luke 6:43). Jesus wasn’t talking about trees when he said that; he was talking about people. He was telling us that misbehavior reveals a heart that’s bad — “desperately wicked,” says Jeremiah. And kids aren’t exempt! Proverbs 22:15 reveals that, in their natural state, children are driven by a heart of foolishness — ready to yield to their selfish cravings without thought of the certain effects.

We can attempt to control the behavior of children with bribery, contracts, threats of punishment, time-outs, and the like, but the heart remains unchanged. If we’re to make disciples rather than to simply diffuse classroom tensions and distractions, we must seek to discover the heart issue that each misbehavior reveals.

Sailing illustrates this truth well. I’ve been sailing once. Until then, it made no sense to me. The wind blows one way, so I figured that’s the direction the boat would go. “How does it get back?” I wondered. “Wait for the wind to change direction,” I guessed. Here’s what I learned: Your destination is determined by the trim of the sail, not the direction of the breeze.

That’s how it works with kids, too. The “wind” of your discipline (does that term accurately describe your huffing and puffing?) may not take children in the direction you intend. It’s the trim of their “sails” — inclined toward God or toward self — that’ll ultimately determine their direction.

Discipline, commonly understood, molds behavior. Discipline that disciples molds the heart. If you recognize this, you’ll focus on revealing to children the nature of sin and instilling in them the character of God. To do this, we must tackle the task of teaching our children a principle about the choices they make.

Sowing And Reaping

My wife and I have a small, raised bed garden. Usually we purchase those little six-packs of sprouted produce, but sometimes we get adventurous and plant seeds. We work the soil, we water, we weed — and we wait. It sometimes seems that the seeds will never sprout, but eventually a shoot emerges and a full-grown plant slowly develops.

Children have a hard time believing that the seeds of their misbehavior will ever sprout. They must learn the principle of sowing and reaping — their choices made today affect their harvest tomorrow. “Do not be deceived,” Paul warns. “God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows. The one who sows to please his sinful nature, from that nature will reap destruction; the one who sows to please the Spirit, from the Spirit will reap eternal life” (Galatians 6:7-8).

We must teach our children that their choices bring results, good or bad, sooner or later. But how can we do that?

Use a variety of strategies. Discipline should not be a knee-jerk reaction to misbehavior; it involves an ongoing process of training and nurture. It includes instruction, warning, praise, and encouragement for good behaviors and attitudes. Don’t simply reprimand your students. Engage them.

Discipline that disciples, says Tedd Tripp in Shepherding a Child’s Heart, involves “helping children understand themselves, God’s world, the ways of God, how sin works in the human heart, and how the gospel comes to them at the most profound levels of human need.”

Teach children to recognize the consequences of sin. The sowing/reaping principle underscores the natural consequences of sin, but how do children understand this when consequences don’t materialize immediately?

“Kids learn to respect the reality of long-term, natural consequences,” says Daniel Hahn in Teaching Your Kids the Truth About Consequences, “when [teachers] use short-run, logical consequences as a routine part of shaping behavior.”

Teach kids to recognize the natural long-term consequences of their actions. At the same time, use immediate consequences to demonstrate the logic of their course of action. Also, keep consequences reasonable and as closely associated with the behavior as possible. For example, if the child’s misbehavior involves property damage, require the child to replace or repair the property. With a relational offense, help the child understand the other person’s perspective and the need for reconciliation.

Explain the “why” of behavior as well as the “what.” Ask the child if they know why it is wrong to do what they did. If they don’t, gently explain it to them. Behind the choices a child makes is a set of values, hopes, and dreams. Do these values reflect the attitudes and qualities exemplified in Christ? Or do they reflect a heart of selfishness? The “why” of behavior penetrates the heart, sometimes revealing values and attitudes contrary to God’s nature.

We “tend to see…behavior in very naive terms,” says Tedd Tripp. “We see the fight over a toy as simply a fight over a toy, when actually it’s a failure to prefer others.” When we help children recognize the motives of their hearts, we help them better understand themselves and their actions. Recognition of sinful motives is the foundation for heart change.

The Bible provides an abundance of wisdom and instruction to help you handle relational tension. You can aid your children in learning how to confront another child when they’ve been wronged (in accordance with Matthew 18), seeking your intervention only as a second step. Role play several possible scenarios with your children. Follow God’s principles of discipline to teach your children what it means to be part of the body of Christ.

“I’m continually running into people who are forcing, bribing, tricking, pleading, kicking, and screaming — trying to get their kids to ‘be good,’ ” says Daniel Hahn. Does that sound like your discipline strategy? Then perhaps it’s time to reexamine your methods and redirect your goal toward discipling rather than simply controlling your children.

Adapted by an article written by Ken McDuff- a children’s pastor in Bakersfield, California.

http://childrensministry.com/article.asp?ID=2088


Parents: Here is our kids zone calendar 09-10 for our Sunday morning kids church times. Dates and times are subject to change. Please make sure you are on our email list to always be in the loop. Contact us today with your info. We’re excited about another year partnering with you in building faith into your kids!


young_family_2What is your goal in raising your children? Is it for them to be successful? What is required of us as parents? Secular researchers discovered that the greatest thing parents can do for their children to grow up and become well adjust adults is model a relationship with God. (And this wasn’t done by religious researchers!) Interesting, that this is exactly what Deut 6:5-7 always taught for thousands of years.

Learn more about training our children effectively…


Junior Kids (Gr 1-5) starting in September will start off sitting alongside you parents in the main service for the first 15 minutes. Much like a Celebration Sunday already does.

Why the change?

1. We have been pondering and praying over this for sometime as a kids committee on how our children miss out on the larger part of the body- aside from once a month Celebration Sundays. This will give your children an opportunity to be a part of things on a regular basis such as communion, baptism, offering, etc. (I discovered that this concern goes back over a decade since moving from the Sunday School to Kids Church model).

Preschoolers will still continue to start in their classes from the start of the services except for Celebration Sundays (typically the last Sunday of the month).

2. We find a great need to build our volunteers into a team committed to caring and praying for each other on a weekly basis. Junior volunteers, during this 15-20 minutes of time, will be meeting together for prayer, discipleship and training before they teach the children. (Preschool teachers will continue to meet before the service on a casual basis).

Interestingly, I’ve discovered other churches in Abbotsford have moved towards this and report an increase in discipleship amongst both the volunteers and the kids (as the kids watch and learn alongside their parents in the main service).

*We will be experimenting with this set-up until the end of December. During this time, feel free to let me know what you think of how it’s going.

Pick up and Drop Off of Juniors:

The Junior teachers (and myself) will then meet your Gr 1-5 children in the foyer upon their dismissal from the main service. When the service is done, we encourage you to pick up your children from their classrooms unless you have decided that they are old enough to meet you in the Common Grounds. We encourage you as parents to make a connection with your child’s teacher at some point on the Sunday morning. :)

For All Families:

We have been praying for you and your family this summer and pray that as you head into Fall, you will be modeling to your children- a desire to dig deep into your relationship with Christ through the Word, through prayer and how you spend your resources and time. You are the most influential teacher to your children and so we partner with you and pray for you regularly. If you ever have any prayer requests, feel free to ask us to join with you in prayer. Our role as a church is to support you in your calling as parents (Deut 6:5-7).

If you have any questions or comments, please don’t hesitate to share them with me.