If you have a difficult three year old or any age in preschool, what is the problem? A recent report on MSNBC suggested that parents’ pre-occupation with their kids’ self-esteem may have produced “rude” children who lack compassion for others.
According to MSNBC, “many experts say today’s kids are ruder than ever.”
A difficult three year old is often due to a lack of discipline. Child psychologists have been telling us to build up our child’s self-esteem. However, pampering them doesn’t do this. Instead it inflates a child’s self esteem and they have no respect for parents, other adults or other children.
“High self-esteem doesn’t make you any better; it only makes you think you are better, which, in the end, makes you worse.” Roy F. Baumeister, professor of psychology at Florida State University
So, how do you deal with a difficult three year old? One book that changed my parenting style and gave me help was “Secrets of Discipline: 12 Keys for Raising Responsible Children” by Ronald G. Morrish. As a parent, you need to know what the guidelines are and how to teach your child to follow them. You must teach your child courtesy and respect, deal effectively with defiance, prepare your child for independence down the road. You don’t have to pull your hair out.